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Resep Sukses

Seru sekali obrolan pagi ini di acara “Ngopi” tepatnya di B Channel. Out of the blue, tiba-tiba aku tertarik untuk menyimak acara talk show ini (padahal jarang-jarang lho!). Mungkin para speakers yang diundang pada acara ini sangat menarik. Yang pertama adalah Billy Boen, seorang CEO di beberapa perusahaan top terkemuka di Indonesia di usia yang sangat muda tepatnya 26thn. Dia ini yang menulis buku “Young on Top”. Pembicara kedua adalah Ken Dean Lawadinata, yang adalah CEO Kaskus yang nge-hits itu. Kedua pembicara ini telah menerbitkan buku yang bisa didapatkan di toko buku terdekat (lho jadi promosi?). Aku sendiri cumen lihat aja buku-buku mereka terpajang di rak buku toko buku terkenal, tapi belum pernah baca..maybe one day I’ll buy their books :p

What were they talking about?

Kita mulai dari yang pertama yah dari Billy dulu yang men-sharingkan pengalamannya yang menurut aku sangat menarik. Host nya bertanya tentang kisah suksesnya. Lalu Billy pun menjawab bahwa yang pertama adalah “know your passion” bahkan ia sudah tahu passion nya sejak SD bahwa ia ingin bekerja di perusahaan brand (wow!). Kesuksesan menurutnya bukan mencapai sesuatu yang teramat besar tapi bisa sukses dari hal-hal kecil contohnya, being on time. Begitu pula kegagalan baginya hampir tidak ada karena setiap kegagalan kecil langsung diperbaiki sehingga tidak terakumulasi menjadi suatu kegagalan yang besar. Well, it’s all about one’s point of view on success and failure. Dia juga kasi tips untuk bisnis seandainya ada modal 10 juta katakanlah, kalau ingin dipakai sebagai modal janganlah ditaro semuanya 10 juta plek tapi beri jatah untuk yang lain..amit-amit the business is not running well, at least masih ada sisa untuk hal lain.

Personality (character) juga sangat penting ternyata untuk jadi sukses. Orang yang tertutup pada kritikan orang lain nampaknya suka mandek tengah jalan jadi kariernya mentok. Being humble and positive is important. Kadang ngerti juga kalau ada orang yang suka konflik di sana-sini, pindah kerja ternyata begitu lagi keadaannya..because character does matter. As long one doesn’t change his/her attitude, the condition won’t change.

Mari kita beralih ke pembicara kedua, Ken, yang mulai Kaskus di US trus pindah ke indo dan jumlah usernya sekarang mencapai 20jt. Mantaps!!! Mulai dari kerja berdua dengan partnernya hingga mempunyai team berjumlah 100 orang sekarang, Ken pun terus menerus berinovasi dengan tantangan yang bertambah tentunya. Hal yang sangat menarik yang bisa disimak dari Ken dan juga Billy adalah peran keluarga dalam kesuksesannya. Billy bercerita bahwa keluarganya mengajarkan hidup sederhana, bersikap tegas. Sedangkan Ken memiliki hubungan yang dekat dengan keluarga dan mendapat dukungan penuh dalam usahanya, walaupun dia sempat berhenti kuliah di US demi kariernya dan terbukti dia berhasil.

Seru belajar dari orang-orang yang sudah sukses, bahwa ternyata mungkin diraih kesuksesan itu asalkan harus bekerja ekstra keras, disiplin dan full-commited. Pastinya orang-orang ini adalah orang yang sangat passionate dalam bidangnya sehingga mereka dapat bekerja dengan sepenuh hati bukan hanya untuk dirinya sendiri tapi juga bagi orang-orang sekitarnya. Aku suka mendengarkan talk show, seminar, baca buku kisah-kisah orang sukses karena menginspirasi dan bisa belajar banyak dari pengalaman hidupnya. Tapi kalau cumen didengar, dibaca tapi tak dilakukan yah sami mawon, tak ada gunanya. Semoga dengan pola pikir yang lebih terbuka, disiplin, tekun, semangat 45 dan keluar dari “comfort zone”, aku bisa meraih impianku dan bisa meraih kesuksesan. Mulai dari yang kecil-kecil dulu aja, yang ada di depan mata nanti seiring berjalannya waktu Tuhan akan percayakan hal-hal yang lebih besar, betul?! 😉

Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.
Dale Carnegie

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
Dale Carnegie

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just be happy :)

I have ever heard this quote:

Instead of saying “I will be happy IF…”, it would be better if we say “I will be happy EVEN THOUGH …

Let me give some examples:

This what we usually say either to ourselves or to anyone:

  • “I will be happy if I  get a handsome, rich guy. “
  • “I will be happy if I  get a job in a prestigious company with a high salary.”
  • “I will be happy if I am a famous football player/ dancer/ actor.”
  • etc… which it will be an endless list

What makes us happier is when we are able to say these things, such as:

  • “I will be happy even though my boss is quite demanding that he gives me lots of criticisms.   It is much better to hear the truth than to hear that my work is good but in the end of the project he would say my idea is bad.”
  • “I will be happy even though every time it rains, it leaks on my ceiling of my house. At least I still have a house.”
  • “I will be happy even though my family only eat this simple dish not like others who always have a luxurious and tasty dish.”

I have watched  TV programs about some, poor people who are struggling with their unbelievable hard work without complaints to support their family and also students who have to walk for miles across a wide river to go to school because there is no bridge accessible from their home to school.

Life is tough but for those who always do their best and be thankful it would be fruitful.

Be happy..for everything we have…for the people who are around us…for every happy and sad moment that God allows us to have.

Let me make it more simple… Just be happy. (period)

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
― Mother Teresa

happy

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My New Journey Has Just Begun

Monday, July 9, 2012 was the date when I started my new journey as a student (again) but now it’s just greater that I’m now a graduate school student in English Applied Linguistic in my beloved campus Atma Jaya Catholic University. Eventhough my classes are just pre-course before the real course which is started in August, I find it really enjoyable. It’s just like I’m going back to my old routines in my undergraduate school in Faculty of Education (English major, of course ;p). The differences are the atmosphere in class, the lecturers who are all professors, and the great friends who are well-experienced professionals in their field. I thank God for giving me the opportunity to be able to pursue my dream in my study.

Going back to the day that I was pretty shocked knowing that I missed the chance to be the student for this batch because of a very silly mistake. I was late in paying my tuition which is due on Friday (someday in June) because of my super-business at school. I just realized it when Andi (my fiance) asked me whether I had paid my tuition and I just shouted “Oh no!” It was on Saturday, the day after the due date of the last payment. I directly called the administration staff, Pak Edi for giving me some extra time to transfer my tuition. However, he said that he couldn’t give me that permit as it was the rule, but he gave me some hope that I might register for the next batch next month but it was alright for me not to have the entrance test again. Well, I was very sad but I kept my positive mind that at least I was given another chance to study in July and I should be more careful and pay attention to the important dates next time.

I had come again to the administration to enroll again by paying the registration fee. It quite soothed me but I still have to wait for few more weeks to pay the tuition. One afternoon, I was having my great time “karaoke-ing” with my bestfriends, Amel and Melink when a text message came to my cell phone and it was from Pak Edi, saying that I need to call him urgently. I just realized that he had called me before his message came but I think I was just very busy singing hahaha… Then I called him directly and I got a very big news from him that I was given a chance to enroll for my graduate school without paying any more registration fee (so I will get refund for my second payment for registration) in 3 days. I just answered, “OK, I’ll come to the campus tomorrow. Thank you very much!!!” I thank God for giving me a miracle. Thanks to the other student that had the same case like me so the board reconsidered our opportunities to pay the tuition in allotted time. Horrayyy…

So that’s a brief flash back how I ended up in a class of pre-course for Graduate school. I really had my review about my lessons back then: Linguistics: phonology, semantics, syntax and all the difficult terms also Academic Writing. I’m so happy that I’m among great people as my classmates not mentioning the smart professors (hopefully I can be one of them too ;p)

Thanks God for every opportunity He has given to me to study, learn from the experts and run my new business. I have never thought that things will be this colorful. I was a little bit “shy” in the introduction for our first lesson. Every one was asked their names, professions and things about themselves. Most of them are well-experienced teachers; one of them are lecturer; there are also a journalist, editor and translator. They are super-cool. When it came to my turn, I introduced myself “Hi, My name is Widya. I have been a teacher for about 5 years and I just resigned from my school.” The Prof asked me “Why? How can you pay your tuition?” I directly answered “I just have to choose  from 2 options: study or work and I chose ‘study’. About my tuition “well, I’m getting married” and the class just laughed..hahaha.. (well, I will try my best to pay my own tuition not giving any more burden for my future husband so I try to run a business). I think I had made an impression of the resigned-teacher going to get married soon hahaha

Anyway, I feel so excited and enthusiastic in every lesson. Hopefully I keep my motivation and spirit up. I have to strived harder as I don’t get any scholarship from any institution like my friends do. I have to prove them that I can make accomplishment from a person like me. I have a dream that I will graduate from my Grad school and make all my family and friends very proud of me.

It is just the beginning. I know the road may not be easy so I put the big C (Christ) in every step that I’ve made and believe that something good has been prepared for me and my beloved ones.

^^

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You’re the best thing i never knew I needed

Dear my friends and kids here in SF, also tribute for those in SJS, SMIS PIK, SAEC,

Time is ticking..it’s just doing the count down..

i’m really gonna miss you all and …

Thank You from the bottom of my heart!

i know that we’ve only met and known each other for a while, but it seems like i know you for years.

i really appreciate those times we were together, in our good times and bad times.

i’m really sorry for the things that i’ve ever said and done.. i really regret those.

thank you for making me a better person and teacher.

i’ll never realize that i will leave all those times soon but..

i’ll pray for you..may God’s grace always be with you and you are favorably blessed by the sweet Lord Jesus

may you all be healthy and successful in all your ways

i can’t stop thank you for all of the joy you’ve put in my heart,

thank you for the strength that you give so i can stand up again whenever i fall

i’m really thankful to God for everything that i have been thru here in SF with you, more than words can say…

i really hate good bye so i won’t say “Good Bye” but i’ll say “See you” as we will still see each other and wherever i am, i will remember you as a part of my life and i’m so grateful.

with warm hugs and kisses,

widya

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Passion of The Christ

I just watched the drama of the Passion of The Christ at Bonaventura Church this morning. It’s like the first time I watched it, though it’s so many times I’ve been there as a player and as an audience. Thank You, God for giving me the chance to join this event. I know God brought me here for some reasons.

When I looked around at the people sitting next to me, or in front of me, children, teenagers, adults, elders were there watching for the same scene I saw. While I was watching Jesus been hit, kicked, spitted, I thought that this shouldn’t be watched by children as it contains violence. I hope these kids don’t have any trauma ;p  Anyway, I kept on focusing at the drama. I noticed there’s one little girl crying and watching Jesus until His dead body was taken out of the Church. It’s a very touching view that I saw. When I heard a woman singing the song ‘We Are The Reason’

We are the reason

that He gave His life

We are the reason

that He suffered and died

To the world that was lost,

He gave all He could give

to show us the reason to live

 

It’s been so long I haven’t heard this song and I still feel the same emotion, sad, glad, thankful. I know that He loves me, but this time I know that He loves me with all his life.

Sometimes when I feel down, desperate about things happen in my life, I feel so alone. I forget that I have Him who gave all His life to me. All my troubles and pains are nothing compared with His suffering til death.

Amazing is Your love, Lord

You teach me to be strong in my struggle, just like what Jesus did. You never give up for anything.

Thank You for what You did and I love You…

Happy Good Friday, friends

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SURRENDER

Suddenly it comes up in my mind, my past experience of KRK (Kebangunan Rohani Katolik – Catholic Spiritual Revival) in Atma Jaya long long time ago (7 years ago, I guess). I was one of the team members with my friends. The theme is “Surrender to Jesus”.

Last night, I thought about some things especially my plans for the next coming year. I know that I have some fears, but I also have some big dreams for me to pursue. I don’t know what future may bring. I don’t know if God will agree with me with my plans. It’s like a thick cloud surrounding my head, as I can’t see clearly what He plans for my life. There’s a big question mark in my head. Then I tried to stop thinking and I start to believe and pray to God. That I’m only a human and I’m not a psychic  who knows my future. What I really know is that I have dreams and I’m really not going to give up on my dreams, until God answers “NO” and I will stop.

I know it’s not going to be easy, even I can say it’s impossible. Some closest people in my life advise me to reconsider about my plan. However, I still don’t want to give up. I’ll try and put my best effort until the end.

The word “SURRENDER” comes up again in my mind. I was trying to quit all the thoughts hanging around me when I prayed to God, asking for what His plan. When I remember this word “SURRENDER“, I feel peace. I know I can’t push  God or other people so hard to agree with me. I just can say “God, I surrender all to You, for You know what’s best for me.”

I’m trying to stop complaining and start believing that God never sleeps. I believe that I have this passion so that I live day by day trying to run and pursue my dreams passionately.

Dear God, I surrender all my life to you, my past and my future. Let me live my present day to the fullest and always have my faith on You. Amen.

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Taken from the movie ‘The Way Back’

Yesterday, I just watched a movie ‘The Way Back’. Neither do I nor Andih knows something about that movie. I just know one actor who is Collin Farrel played a role there. However, we chose that movie from other movies, which was not my first option.

It is based on the true story back on the world war II when the regime of communism ruled the world especially in Europe. Some people were put in prison not because as their criminal act but they were set up by the government. Janusz was one of that people, whose wife was threatened to say false accusation to the authority about him.

So then the story goes, about Janusz in prison, where he and others were treated like a slave, working and living without dignity.  He met some friends there and they made a plan to run away from that prison, which is in the mountain in Siberia. There was snow anywhere but they kept on going with their plan to escape through the storm.

Friendship, sacrifice and love were found during their journey together. Death was inevitable for some of them. However, Mr. Smith ever said that “At least they are died as a free men.” They helped each other, fought for some reasons. Janusz as the main character was never giving up. He kept on believing in his dream, that is to find his way back to his wife, his country, Poland. The struggle was so hard that they kept on walking from Siberia until India, through mountains and dessert, extreme cold and hot weather. Finally, they found their dreams. They were free.

I really love this movie. I learn a lot from the characters, especially Janusz, that nothing can keep him away from his dream. Even though it takes a very long journey,  so many years, through the difficult times and impossible things to conquer, but still that man has a vision and live for it. Hopefully I can live my life with that optimism and keep my head up though the world gives you pain and suffering. As long as I look forward to the finish line and keep running in my track, I believe I can reach my dreams.

Nothing is impossible if God is in charge to my life. I won’t look back and regret my past as it is a history, but I keep my eyes on looking up to my future and doing my best right now.

TODAY is a gift, that’s why it’s called PRESENT.

I’m looking my way back to Him, as He starts everything in my life and I will come back to Him. That’s for sure 😉

 

 

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Christmas is …

Christmas is not only about a party, gifts, Christmas tree and decorations, also Santa clause.

It is so much deeper than those.

Christmas is a  celebration of love, the love of God in Jesus’ birth.

Jesus is our hope, our brightest and most shining star, our Savior coming to the world for us.

Because Jesus is born, there is a hope for everyone.

Because He comes to the world, our dark life is shined by His mercy and light.

What can we offer to Him as a gift? Perhaps the most expensive things in the world that money can buy??..Nope…He won’t need those.

I think what He really wish for is our heart as a place for Him to stay and a manger where baby Jesus can sleep onto.

Welcome Jesus to my heart.

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR

Let the warmth, joy and hope of Christmas is all around especially in you  and your beloved ones.

🙂

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Life is…

He's like the rainsome people describe life is a journey to a better place (which i believe ‘heaven’). Since i’m reading the book ‘purpose driven life’ again, i came up in this idea that we’re here in this earth only for a stop. we are prepared for something huge, eternal that is life with God.

some people think that life is a test – well in my perspective as a teacher, a test is needed so we can measure our ability or competencies..hihi..suddenly remembered it from the last training..okay2, back to the topic..if you pass the test, let’s say “responsibility”, maybe we can go on to the next level named “patience” then after that “honesty” or maybe “loyalty” and in the final level “faith”..well that’s my idea.

some people may think that life is a roller coaster. Sometime you will have the ups and sometime you will have the downs…actually the most exciting and horrifying thing is the downs -gosh, i miss riding a roller coaster- but you have to hold on until the final moment. then you can say “awesome, can i ride it again? ;p

some people will have an idea of life to have all the things you want while “you are alive in this world”. maybe the principal “live like there’s no tomorrow”..it can be all about the money..all about the dum..dum..dudu dum…oops… ;p or power, status, economy level, etc.

hmm..thinking of what i’m thinking of the definition of life makes me confused.. but what i know and believe is that life is only once. you cannot repeat again like in your dvd player. anytime you miss a scene, you can just press the ‘rewind’ button. or when you are in a difficult times, you can press the ‘pause’ or ‘stop’ button. if i can have a remote control like that, or if doraemon exists, i would like to borrow one 🙂

well, God gives me life. but I realize that i don’t use my time here effectively. sometimes i’m lazy, i just keep grumbling and asking ‘why life is not fair to me?’ and keep critizing for evrything happens not according my way. when i was driving on my way home, i felt that the traffic was pretty bad. the street is too crowded with people, not mentioning the motorcycles, b10, even there’s a ‘topeng monyet’ right on the edge of the street with women and children watching them. and this man with a carriage in front of me walking very slow..i just wanna shout and say ‘can you just step aside? and let me go first’..well, it only happened in my mind, while my heart sayin “patience, God grant me patience”..hehe..

then this idea of life popped up in my mind, maybe, when i drove quite slow, i thought that why i was so easily angry these past days or weeks. i should have managed myself, that’s why i need to take a break or just a simple retreat to gain what is my objective in life or my purpose in this life…what i’m pursuing in all of my days..i don’t wanna live my days like there’s nothing special, all i do is just a routine, the same thing day by day..

then i tried to think the bright sides of my life..i think about my job. being a teacher is a blessing. i just realized that. many people stuck in their monotone life on their job, while i have different story to tell about my students every day. i love this job, even though sometimes it’s not easy to deal with. but i just say ‘thank you God, i’ve found what i love to do’. then i’m so grateful with so many people who love me..i can’t say all the names here, but i thank God for my family, you’re the best. i’m glad for my hunny, who stands beside me. then all my bestfriends, without you i’ll never be the person i am now. last but not least, i have a very BIG God.. i remembered an anecdote..
“if you have a problem, don’t say ‘i have a big problem’ but say ‘Hey, problem, go away!!i’m not scared to you because i have a BIG GOD!!’

cheers,
🙂

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